Brain Betrayal
It's getting worse, now, the closer I get to starting work: my brain will not allow me to sleep. I read a chapter or two, turn off the lights, and I begin to think.
I was considering my behavior at my boss's party on Saturday. Yes I had a few glasses of wine, but they were spread out over many hours and I was eating...a lot. Anyway, I was evaluating if I did anything foolish and determined I did not, but one of my colleagues said something that made me think.
Many of the people at the party had traveled to Italy recently, so we were discussing Rome and the buildings and angry Italian artists and the Church obviously came up. Someone was telling a story about a pope that's not pictured on a wall and it somehow segued into Church rules. So, since this is stuff I know about, I was playing "did you know..." Not in a haughty way, but just as an FYI kind of thing.
I'm afraid I came off as too bitter, however, which is unfortunate. You know you're not supposed to discuss politics and religion but...I find it fascinating. I didn't mean to come across as "wow, Catholicism sucks," it was supposed to be "Hey, you should know why your church is the way it is."
Anyway, all this rambling is coming to this point: I apologize if I come off as a know-it-all or haughty. It is never my intention to be this way with people; I just like to impart knowledge (hence my profession). I'm not sure how I'm going to fix my party flub with my colleagues, so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Oh, and my boss's son is cute. Awkward for me.
I was considering my behavior at my boss's party on Saturday. Yes I had a few glasses of wine, but they were spread out over many hours and I was eating...a lot. Anyway, I was evaluating if I did anything foolish and determined I did not, but one of my colleagues said something that made me think.
Many of the people at the party had traveled to Italy recently, so we were discussing Rome and the buildings and angry Italian artists and the Church obviously came up. Someone was telling a story about a pope that's not pictured on a wall and it somehow segued into Church rules. So, since this is stuff I know about, I was playing "did you know..." Not in a haughty way, but just as an FYI kind of thing.
I'm afraid I came off as too bitter, however, which is unfortunate. You know you're not supposed to discuss politics and religion but...I find it fascinating. I didn't mean to come across as "wow, Catholicism sucks," it was supposed to be "Hey, you should know why your church is the way it is."
Anyway, all this rambling is coming to this point: I apologize if I come off as a know-it-all or haughty. It is never my intention to be this way with people; I just like to impart knowledge (hence my profession). I'm not sure how I'm going to fix my party flub with my colleagues, so any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Oh, and my boss's son is cute. Awkward for me.
7 Comments:
At 12:34 AM , Kelly said...
Well, you know they didn't *make* you drink, Kar... that being said, I would have probably done the same.
I'm willing to bet it will blow over, and is not as serious as you thought. Good luck.
Pics of boss's son? ;)
At 5:53 AM , LadyVader said...
I know they didn't make me drink. But looking back on it, objectively, the drinking isn't what made me say what I said. I am apparently just a know-it-all. ;)
At 8:46 AM , Anathema said...
What exactly did your colleague say to you? I am thinking you should not worry about this, just be aware of how it comes out from now on. And, no, it wasn't the wine. I know that - you'd've said it anyway.
At 6:21 PM , leila said...
I'm a big fan of telling people why their church is the way that it is. Especially the parts about them stealing all their holidays from the agricultural religions that were in practice hundreds of years before Christ was a glimmer in whoever's eye. Effing christians.
At 12:29 AM , Kelly said...
I try to stay out of religious discussions with strangers because I can't hide my contempt for the church (any church) or various holy books. Then they get all offended. Well sorry, it's nothing against you- just because I hate the commercialism of christmas, for example, doesn't mean I hate children who believe in Santa Claus. Belief in Santa makes them behave and gives them something to look forward to - just like belief in God, only the playground fights become world wars. But most of the kids on the playground aren't fighting because they know Santa's watching, just as most people have some kind of rule against killing other people or they won't have a pleasant afterlife.
Anyway. I woke up cranky again, sorry. I'd have to agree: it was you, not the wine talking ;)
At 10:37 AM , Anathema said...
It seems to me that the reason one does not talk politics/religion is simply becuase people offend too easily. Sometimes a tone that doesn't convey anything but curiosity gets mistaken as a tone that conveys contempt and when it comes to religion especially people don't like their beliefs questioned.
I tend to be all about questioning beliefs, or at least understanding where they came from, but I'm an oddity. Then again I'm not a member of a religion based strongly on dogma at the moment...what with the caste system being outlawed and what not.
Anyway...the moral of the story is know your audience. And just because you believe in a higher power doesn't mean you have to believe in rules created by man. Right.
I'm sorry if I have inadvertantly offended anyone, I'm coughing too hard to go back and proofread this...
At 12:00 PM , Kelly said...
That's what I'm saying. People identify so strongly with their religious communities that they get offended if you say something negative about the building, the organization, or the book. A lot of people don't realize that criticism of an institution doesn't mean criticism of the people in it, necessarily... it's like "support the troops, not the war." The war is beyond any one person's ability to control, except maybe the president. Laypeople at a church, in a similar way, don't control the clergy. They're just members. They need to know what's going on "overhead" so to speak, so they can decide whether they want to be a part of that group or not. That's not offensive. *I'm* offensive sometimes, but what I say is paltry compared to what I really think. We all have our own levels of internal censorship. At any rate, sometimes the truth hurts, but sometimes it does people good to hear it in the end.
/rant
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